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Thinking of Ourselves and Others

Posted by Lisa on January 13, 2012

Do the decisions that you make actually affect the entire world? Are you that powerful?!

I love, love, love the cold weather.  Seriously, the colder it gets the more I love it! Today I am in (my) heaven and I'm loving every moment of it.  I love the cold.  I love the snow.  I love snuggling up in bed or with my husband and cat.  I love cooking.  I love how quiet the world becomes.

While I was out driving today in the wintery weather, I took in every moment and aspect of the wintery weather.  I loved being a part of the winter weather and looking at the beautiful snow.  This drive also gave me the opportunity to observe the people around me.  

There are some basic rules that I follow when there's wind, rain, ice or snow on the road. These rules are:  I slow down, pay attention to what's coming up in front of me (ex. is there a snowy patch or a school bus that may be making a stop), pay attention to what's coming up behind me and leave plenty of space between me and the car in front of me.  I never talk on a cell phone or text while I'm driving (it's one of my constant rules) so that's not a problem (even though I'm amazed that people still do).  If I slide, there's no need to hurt someone else in the process. Plus, it's probably less likely that I will be hurt and my car will have less damage if I do not hit someone else in the process. Wherever I'm going can wait 5-10 extra minutes for me while I do my best to ensure that I (and everyone else around me) arrive safely. This seems pretty simple to me.

I went to the grocery this morning and the roads were fine but it's windy so the snow was blowing across the roads and the wind would push my car every now and then.  I live in the (somewhat) country so icy or snow-covered patches can sneak up on us quickly.  I was surprised to see one person in the ditch and I thought, "I wonder how that happened?"

My trip to the grocery and home was nice. Most everyone on the roads were following my basic rules.  I had no problems and no close calls.  I am very appreciative to these people for respecting themselves and me enough to do this.

I did observe a few people who were not following these basic rules.  The entire experience got me to thinking about how the choices and decisions we make do affect ourselves AND others around us. The decisions that each of us makes starts a ripple that goes out to the entire world - one person at a time.  We as humans ARE that powerful.

My overall lesson is simply this... The decisions we make do affect our own self and other people. My decision to take care of me does mean that I'm also taking care of others around me.  My decision to take care of myself the best that I can as a diabetic does impact my husband (which means that it does impact the people that he comes into contact with and with the people they come into contact with and on and on).  My decision to slow down and pay attention creates a higher probability that I and others around me will make it to our destinations easily and with less frustration.  I arrive at my destination calm and happy and others will arrive at their destinations happier.  This will impact the others they come into contact with.  My decision to not slow down not only endangers myself but it also endangers other people which may frustrate or hurt someone and this will be passed on to the people that they come into contact with and on and on.  

It seems easy in hindsight to see that the choice to not slow down caused an accident so next time I'll make a conscious choice to slow down (or not).  Why do we seem to wait until the accident has actually happened and then learn from it? Is it possible to make a choice to think through to consequences BEFORE creating the experience? The answer seems to be simply that we are creatures who learn through experiences so we may need to experience the accident before we understand the consequences (to ourselves and others) and can apply that lesson the next time (and hopefully make a more mature decision).  Our brains learn from experience.  Our brains need to have seen and experienced that experience and then it's up to us to teach our brain something new. I don't think we have to continue that pattern though.  We don't have to CREATE the experiences ourselves in order to learn from it.  

I think we have the power to change that simply by paying attention to what's going on around us and by sharing our own experiences with others.  We (and our brains) can learn from others experiences and be able to think through to consequences which will help us to make different choices for ourselves.  Our brains will have experienced simply through sharing in someone else's experiences.  This is why it is valuable for us to share our experiences.  Through doing this, we not only help ourselves but we help others to open up to other options.  This is how helping ourselves can also help others and spread the ripple.

Take a moment to think of the consequences of how you're treating yourself affects others in their lives.  Become conscious of your choices and how you're treating yourself. Pay attention and see if you can see how this ripples out to others.  

I see the Universe and Earth as disciplinarians (like our parents).  Discipline for me is education and it's preparing us to know ourselves, the world and consequences so that we can make the best decisions for ourselves (which impact others).

Stop to think about how powerful of a being you actually are.  What you do and the way you feel about yourself does impact the entire world.  Your sharing YOU does help in creating change.  How powerful is that?!



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